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Posted by yckim124 AKP STAFF Friday, December 21, 2018

Solider who lost his family and girlfriend in a car accident only gets 11 days of break from service

Just 11 days of break is granted to a soldier (21) who lost his family in a car accident. 

On December 21, it was announced that a soldier has been given 10 nights and 11 days of break from service for his loss. 

Around 6:02 pm on December 20 KST, a car accident occurred 1km from the military training center in Hwacheon county of Gangwon. 

The soldier's father and driver Kim (51) is in critical condition and currently receiving treatment at Hallym University Chuncheon Sacred Heart Hospital. The other 4 passengers including the soldier's mother (56), two younger sisters (25) and (21) and girlfriend Jung (24) have all passed away. 

Kim was driving a Sorento which went off the road, collided with a pole, and fell down the road drain.

The family and the girlfriend were returning home after visiting the soldier in the military training center. 

Netizens are expressing condolences and demanding extra vacation days for the soldier. Some even believe the soldier should be discharged early from the military. 

Comments stated"Just let him get discharged... Nobody will complain," "There's no way he can finish his service with a stable mind," "I'm worried he might have bad thoughts during his break," "This is terrible. What is he going to do in that break?," "Just let him go."

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mrrreow Friday, December 21, 2018 5
Friday, December 21, 2018

This is horrible and that he's only given 11 days of break from service is completely inhumane. Many people wouldn't even find the strength to keep on living after such a tragic event occurred in their life and they expect him to get back to his service after just 11 days? Unbelievable. I agree with the people who are saying he should be discharged (if that's what he wants) because under the current circumstances, there's no way that he's going to be able to finish his service because military service itself is hard enough but military service after you've lost almost all of your loved ones at once? Impossible. It could also be that he's blaming himself, thinking "If only they wouldn't have visited me, then all of them would still be alive.", which would only raise the possibility of suicide. He needs to be able to talk to someone (professionals) and he needs someone who can comfort him (maybe his friends?). I hope he'll somehow be able to find happiness again, but as someone, who knows the pain of losing close family members, I can say that it's really hard. You will never forget and the pain will always be there, it's just that you learn to live with it more and more as time goes by.


Edit: I checked some other courses and found out that the original article also states "Kim (21) took a 10-night 11-day petition in response to an accident. The South Korean military plans to actively support Kim when he needs additional vacation leaves after the petition." so that's good to know.

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Great_Turtle 30 days ago 0
30 days ago

Honestly this could go two ways,either the lost will wear him down so he`s unable to function in the military...or the ridged discipline of the military will keep him focused on getting over it,all depends on whether he copes with this or if he cant ...

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Soulbrother Saturday, December 22, 2018 1
Saturday, December 22, 2018

11 days is actually pretty good, our armed forces (NZ) gives us 3 days bereavement.

I can also say with the comradery (at least from my experience) being in the armed forces brings he's probably in the best place for support.

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kimberlyjos23 (Banned) 27 days ago 0
27 days ago

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melon Friday, December 21, 2018 1
Friday, December 21, 2018

I think they give him for funeral and that's it. It's probably better to keep him busy though. But gosh. :(

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mrrreow Friday, December 21, 2018 0
Friday, December 21, 2018

Probably and that's just not enough. I think it depends on the person. There are people who prefer to have something to do, so they have no time to deeply think about the occurrences and then there are people who just can't do anything in such a situation (because they're so traumatized), no matter how hard they try.

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Kkkpopvvv Friday, December 21, 2018 1
Friday, December 21, 2018

JUst let him go he must blame himself for what happened :( If his father dies he is gonna be alone not to mention the family of his girlfriend how will he face them he did not do anything but but their daughter would have been alive if she did not go to visit him. He needs to go and get mental help there is no way he can take any important decisions in that state of mind. He might take his life in those vacation days...If he wants to go back to the military he can it's not traumatizing unless he really dislikes it it can help him be distracted and take care of himself but he need to see a psychologist for a while. He must live even if he lost hsi family they would not want him to be unhappy

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FroggyBoy 30 days ago 0
30 days ago

They could likely arrange psychiatrist meetings even if he continues.

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Religion47 Friday, December 21, 2018 0
Friday, December 21, 2018

oh no, i hope he is okay, but losing family members all at once so sad, god help him please

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changminbaby Friday, December 21, 2018 0
Friday, December 21, 2018

thats so horrible :'(

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10000others Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

It's inhumane in that sense but it's also good that the military can keep an eye on him. First off his fellow soldiers are also human, I bet they will cut him off some slack. Next, his superior can possibly request for a military psychologist to help him out.

It really beats leaving this poor guy outside to face his now-empty home.

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Hmbdy Friday, December 21, 2018 0
Friday, December 21, 2018

This is devastating. Losing all your loved ones and not having anyone close to you anymore to help you through your toughest time(s)...I hope he'll be okay

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pink_oracle Friday, December 21, 2018 8
Friday, December 21, 2018

Holy fuck he just lost almost his entire family how can you expect him to function normally let alone complete military duties??? #heartlessSouthKorea

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Notmykl Friday, December 21, 2018 7
Friday, December 21, 2018

Oh stop it! He's in the military for god's sakes, he's neither a CSR nor a fast food worker. He can get additional compassionate leave if it's necessary but he's not going to be discharged early because of this accident. The military is a life NOT a freaking job you can just give the finger to and leave. He has duties and responsibilities not to mention a contract with the government that must be fulfilled. Grow the fuck up and drop this "heartless" bullshit.

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Tulog_Ako Friday, December 21, 2018 5
Friday, December 21, 2018

No you do not understand.. He is not a regular soldier. He is doing mandatory services (which require for all korean male to do 2 years to serve military). Also loosing 1 family member is fine, but an entire family was lost due to their visit to him. That person is only 21 and will blame himself "why did I enlist myself into mandatory service as such young age"..Also if he goes back to Military he will blame the military service. they are also allowed to use guns and as you know S.Korea have highest suicide rate and Incest.

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pink_oracle Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

Do you even understand what's happened to him? His mother, dead. His siblings, dead. His girlfriend, dead. All dead. His life has literally been completely destroyed. He has only his father left, his life will NEVER be the same again. It's going to take years for him to recover from the loss and trauma. He's not even FIT to perform his service now, he'll be mentally damaged from the grief.
It is very evident that you haven't ever lost family, or you would understand the gravity of his loss.

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MellowCrush Saturday, December 22, 2018 1
Saturday, December 22, 2018

That is so terrible he probably is blaming himself. He's young and going through grief he needs people around him. Hopefully counseling is provided to him by the military. After going through that it's highly advisable to seek therapy and move through the stages of grief properly. Considering he still has time left for completing his mandatory training maybe going back to the military isn't such a bad idea. As long as he is given a choice and options to help him. I think people are mostly upset because they think he doesn't have a choice or say in the matter of getting extra days off... You get pretty close to those around you when you're in training or serving in the military. So it might be best to be around people rather than at an empty home where the family lived. Also, there are multiple eyes on him to notice anything that might be off. Outpatient clients don't always go to their sessions and are easy to fall though the cracks. Let him stay in the military if he wants and get back into his routine with scheduled therapy sessions. The living must go on living.

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SeonNyeo26 28 days ago 0
28 days ago

That actually helped Leeteuk. Staying in military and receiving counseling in the same time.Plus the big family which is SUJU. This guy...He probably already made some comrades (god, i hope) who would be able to empathize with him and become his new family. He is so young! Only 21 years old... I think that they should seek psychological help for him on the whole duration while he is in army. Losing your whole family is the most traumatic thing. It all depends on how is the unit life for him, is it a proper place or nay? Are his comrades supportive of him or nay? Is he able to take on the training or nay? I would say that if he cannot bring himself anymore to be an active duty soldier, they should relocate him in a place where he can be monitored and still feel useful to the nation WITHOUT MAKING IT sound like they are downgrading him.

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LittleSukie Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

OMG, what a tragic news. RIP good people. How do you recover from this. I think it is good to have him back in military as soon as possible, keep him occupied so he would have other things to think about and not only this tragedy. He will also be monitored and get professional help if needed. When you are alone out there after such a tragedy, all kinds of dark thoughts come to mind. Controlled environment such as military can help. Then again, we know nothing about this guy. Every single one of us react to life blows differently. I only wish him a lot of strength and all the best.Also, poor father. If he wakes up and realizes what happened, he will have such a hard time dealing with it.

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babekane Sunday, December 23, 2018 0
Sunday, December 23, 2018

What a family tragedy, so sad, so horrendous for this poor soldier to face with such a short time to prepare for their burial. The military superiors have to step in and grant him an early release due to deaths in the family that is now left up to him to start to prepare as he struggles mourning their deaths. He has a huge responsibility facing him alone without his dad's help since his dad is recovering too from that fatal crash. Please reconsider and give favor to this soldier who is already suffering terrible losses that he'll be of no use to the military as it stands, mentally he is drained. He took care of the military as long as he could, now let him go to take care of his family now, they need him now. it's the most humane task that the military can and should take care of him now. Fighting

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Diamond_White Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

OMG.. He will be haunted by the last words he's said to them and their last facial expressions forever.. At least he had a last chance to see them happily before they passed away T^T

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NORM Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

My concern isn't even the amount of rest days, I just hope they make him go for counseling/ get checked up regularly for a while. Cos for somepple staying idle for too long doesn't help with grieving, but being active/having a routine helps.

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DeathAssilant Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

This is pretty standard most jobs only give u off untill after the funerals

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Joohyunnie Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

Wow I only read about this and it broke my heart :( I can't imagine what this guy is going through. I hope his dad will be okay and that he has more distant family to be there for him during this difficult time. I think the military should ask him what HE wants to do. Whether he would like to take more time off or come back earlier. Every griefs differently but 11 days is definitely not enough for someone like him.

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Raven_17 Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

Don't leave him alone. He needs support, he needs his friends, and he needs professional help and all the love he can get. I really hope that he can wake up from this nightmare. Rest in peace.

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nnani Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

I cried so hard but when I read they JUST left from visiting him, I literally fucking balled my eyes out. This is so devastating and sad, he's my age and he literally has no one now. I agree, he deserves to be discharged from this. This is literally impact him forever, it's bad enough he's forced to go into service which messes with the mind already. Now is family is gone? I wish I could hug him, I really do.

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mipcy Friday, December 21, 2018 0
Friday, December 21, 2018

May they rest in peace. Man, I can't even began to imagine or just the thought of losing not one but your whole family in a flash. I just wish the best for him.

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aloraiscool Friday, December 21, 2018 3
Friday, December 21, 2018

ARE YOU SERIOUS??...SO HE ONLY GETS 11 DAYS TO MOURN AFTER LOSING HIS LOVED ONES AND THEN HE HAS TO GO BACK FOR TRAINING??? WHAT KIND OF MILITARY ARE THEY RUNNING HERE??

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Soulbrother Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

In NZ we get 3 days, but in my experience being among people you trust so much is the best place to be during these times. They have your back more than most would.

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Notmykl Friday, December 21, 2018 1
Friday, December 21, 2018

A fucking MILITARY you idiot! He has a contract with the government. If he needs additional compassionate leave he can apply for it otherwise he needs to get back to work. He's not the first soldier to lose family members while serving his country and he won't be the last. Stop being all "shocked" about the time any soldier would receive when family members die.

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OhMyGuy Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

Do you actually care about how the military should treats things or do you just want to call people idiots? Sounds like you need to sort yourself out, that's a you problem

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FK97 Friday, December 21, 2018 0
Friday, December 21, 2018

That really sucks, all of your loved ones gone in a single day.

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ShhItsChae 3 days ago 0
3 days ago

I hope none of you have to experience this kind of tragedy. But it is important to know that routine is very beneficial and so is having activities that take your mind away from your loss. I've seen kids attend school the day after a parent dies and the only day they miss is the funeral (some don't even take a full day for that). The more important thing is support from friends and family.

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Schecter 11 days ago 0
11 days ago

well that's terrible but in my country we only got 3 days if you lost a close relative so 11 days are not that bad

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Shamsidar_Md_Ali 26 days ago 0
26 days ago

Soldiers are trained to physically, mentally and emotionally strong. Makes me wonder if he could endure such a big loss. I hope he will pull through. My condolences to him.

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FroggyBoy 30 days ago 0
30 days ago

I have a quite unpopular opinion, but I don't think him having a long break would be a good thing. What I do think is that he shouldn't need to have as harsh training in case his mental state doesn't allow it. When dealing with loss, you do need time, but too much time on your hands will lead to bad things.

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Soulbrother Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

People are over-reacting AS PER NORMAL IN HERE. ALLKPOP as usual tells you only enough of the story and they usually get it wrong to attract traffic, Surely you all know this by now. 11 days is what he is probably entitled to but you can usually apply for more.....


I'm an ex serviceman and we would get 3 days Bereavement for close deaths in the family. REAL LIFE HAPPENS EVERY DAMN DAY. It sucks, sure but 11 days is a hell of a lot better than for others. This isn't a normal 9-5 job remember. Also with the comradery you have when you're in the armed forces it's probably a better place to be for genuine support.


You have friends you grow up with but the friends you make while serving last seriously the lifetime...

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annabts Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

his medical profile should be re-evaluated. He’s probably not mentally stable now and that should be taken into consideration. Korean citizens should start a petition to have him discharged or have his military service postponed until he is done grieving

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qnaug Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

i know ur family and gf are dead but ur coming to work right?

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forgivemenot1 Friday, December 21, 2018 0
Friday, December 21, 2018

Having had to organise two funerals one for each parent just from a practical standpoint that isn't enough time, it isn't just the funeral you also have to deal with relatives and debts and wills and sort it all out all the while trying to personally deal with your own loss, 11 days? more like a month perhaps longer.

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RyenLux Saturday, December 22, 2018 1
Saturday, December 22, 2018

It reminded me of the time when SJ Leeteuk lost his father and grandparents to a murder/suicide, and he was given less than a week from his military service. He barely had time to grief. They only allowed him enough time to attend the funeral, and then he was back in the military three days later. I know things are very tense in South Korea right now, but it doesn't mean they can neglect their soldier's mental health and well-being like that. :(

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kizaru_hijin Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

still pathetic whe you racist try to sound nice and caring, when you didnt even care when jonghyun died and were happy, that another korean died, since thats the kind of disgusting racist that you are, who is jealous at all kpop artists, because kpop is getting bigger and bigger...

and you still use multiple accounts for your hate rants like stopudelulu, holdthisLnoobs, bigblueagain, bangeryun94 and wang_sejung...

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melon Friday, December 21, 2018 1
Friday, December 21, 2018

The comment by people are strange. "I'm afraid he might have bad thought on break just let him go" isn't it worse to just let him go. This is devastating he probably needs to be with friends or someone who can help him through. Staying in training is probably better? Who knows I think he should be allow to go if he wants and stay if he can. In this situation. No information about how this accident happened?

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mrrreow Friday, December 21, 2018 0
Friday, December 21, 2018

All the article says is "Kim was driving a Sorento which went off the road, collided with a pole, and fell down the road drain." Maybe the road was slippery and he lost control of the car? That's what I'm guessing.

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KPOPTrashTalker Friday, December 21, 2018 2
Friday, December 21, 2018

I would not be surprised if he kills himself in a few days


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RyenLux Saturday, December 22, 2018 1
Saturday, December 22, 2018

You can always command your dog kizaru_hijin to make that happen. kizaru_hijin LOVES telling people to go kill themselves, so it should be an easy job for him.

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kizaru_hijin Saturday, December 22, 2018 0
Saturday, December 22, 2018

and still using the lies that apply to yourself pathetic racist...you hate kpop out of jealousy for it getting bigger and bigger and wished countless idols to die, just like snsd first, later you tried to act like a sone, just for some likes with your bigblueagain...

now you use your stopudelulu and holdthisLnoobs accounts to show your true, hateful personality...

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livinglifeonpaus Friday, December 21, 2018 1
Friday, December 21, 2018

dont wanna read this shit on my kpop gossip. DOWNVOTE.

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crowboy Friday, December 21, 2018 0
Friday, December 21, 2018

yeah, i will for sure downvote you

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