As a long term kpop fan (of the been around forever stan multiple groups variety), I totally understand the frustration. To be honest though Armys are really just acting like EXO-Ls -- literally all the Army behavior is stuff EXO-L started doing in 2013/14, so it isn't fair to just blame them. I did the same "I don't feel like I can even support the group because of the fans" thing with EXO back then. Kpop fandoms used to be a much nicer community on the boy group side (some of the girl group fans could get a little intense, but nothing like you see now). It's morphed into this immature trollish thing that isn't healthy. I find I rarely comment on stuff any more because of the fan-trolls, and I really miss the community aspect of kpop that's been lost because of it. Not to hate on the groups or fandoms, but the toxicness needs to stop because it does effect the groups negatively (for evidence see all the "I used to like them" comments in this thread).
Armys ruined kpop. Not the music, just the “fandom/stanning” aspect of it. I will never tell anyone I like BTS for as long as I live because the embarrassment at being put in the same catagory as armys is just too unbearable for me. Remember when armys weren’t this angry, rabid, obsessive teenage girl cult? Yeah those were good times. And I’m talking about the girls you spoke about, the ones that aren’t actually kpop fans but they only stan bts. Now none kpop fans think people who like kpop are cancerous armys. I know this will get me hate but I wanted to say it