No One Should Be This Scared Of A Question

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Is asking idols if they are dating someone crossing a line?

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  1. Venomous

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    As some of you may or may not know, Monsta X just wrapped up the U.S. leg of their world tour. While they were here they did a number of interviews with various American media outlets, and one of those interviews was released recently. This is one of the questions they were asked:


    I.M. couldn't have been any clearer with his last remark, "That's a really dangerous question."

    Watch it a few times, take a good look at each individual member's reaction. A lot of people are calling it cute, the fact that they're panicking, but it really just speaks to how broken fan culture is that they're terrified of a question because answering it incorrectly could possibly end their careers. I find it annoying that this isn't even the first time Access have asked an idol group this (they asked BTS, too), and it's not even a good question. What does a non-fan take away from a question like that? You could be asking about their music, their stage show, their tour in general, anything that gives fans and non-fans actual information, not some b.s. invasive personal question you probably wouldn't even ask a total stranger you just met. If we've learned anything from the recent Cube situation, it's that it seems like fans haven't much changed their opinions on idols dating.

    What do you think? Do fans' attitudes towards dating need to change? Do Western interviewers need to be more aware of the implications of some of their questions? ​
     
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    They should at least do some research prior to the interview and it should be obvious enough whether it will be appropriate or no.
     
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    fans definitely need to change. idols should never have to feel like if they ever publicly announced their relationships that their fans would bail or cause trouble... it's sick that fan culture has become so obsessed and dangerous like that. and for sure, western interviewers need more education on the industry in general. it's not the same as the american music industry and some of their questions are so ill-fitting for kpop artists... they just sound very uneducated
     
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    Think it's sad.. really. That they can't openly say if they have someone in their life because of these psycho fans.
     
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    I don't think people should asks them things like this. It just puts them in a tough position because if they're really dating someone, they won't just openly admit it because fans would be upset by it.
     
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    i dont see why it's inappropriate
     
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    In general I don't see the need for people to ask anyone because it's none of their business. But yeah the fan culture of thinking you own an idol needs to be killed
     
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    Dating isn't something bad or something to be ashamed of. If you really cared about and support your idol, you would appreciate them for being honest with fans and for being happy in their relationship. Unfortunately most K-fans have the idea that buying merch for an idol means they belong to a fan because they're the livelihood of that idol, which is really toxic and possessive.

    But then again, they're kind of condoning (intentionally or not) this behavior by calling their fans their girlfriends. No hate on Monstax, but they probably shouldn't have said that part.
     
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    I don’t think asking the question of whether they are dating or not is the problem. It’s a normal question tbh.

    The problem is clearly the selfish fan culture. Those crazy “fans” need to realize that their “oppa” will be in a happy relationship that won’t involve them, and they need to accept that. Yes, Kpop groups are supposed to be entertain them, it’s their job, we can’t deny that. But there’s no need to act all privileged about it and claiming that those groups are theirs and theirs only as if they don’t have their own lives.

    I wish that one day, groups will be able to publicly announce that they are dating without being scared and then have a positive reaction to it from their fans.
     
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    "Dating scandal". Dating is not scandalous.
    Everyday people have romantic relationships, it's part of life. It's only labeled scandalous because of how ridiculously over possessive fans and the lack of respect they have for the fact that idols are entitled to do what they want in their private lives. The life that's off stage and away from the cameras. Tragic.
     
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    They could just say no and then the whole thing is over, lol
     
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    These fans know exactly how much pressure and shit these idols get put on them for dating and they think it’s appropriate to ask them that?
     
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    Think about it this way, would you feel uncomfortable if a total stranger asked you if you were seeing someone?

    I mean, it's true that they probably shouldn't encourage it, but it's just the way they are. Last year there was a point where Starship was forced to make a statement because Hyungwon's ex had posted something on social media and fans were making up rumours and asking questions, whether she was still with him, etc. At this point I feel like they're kind of forced into that bit due to past drama, as Starship doesn't like conflict and they'll deflect any way they can.

    True, but it also wouldn't make for a very good interview and part of their job is being engaging.
     
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    celebrities get asked many questions surrounding themselves. it's the price they pay for being famous.
     
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    Not really. Especially if their job was to ask me questions.
     
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    I don't think its gonna change anytime soon, changing core culture in a country is very very difficult and almost impossible thing to do, yes we can moan online as ifans but it means nothing if the core needs from the knetz (the first recipients of kpop groups) are not met (idols be pure and untouchable kinda image)
     
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    But really, should it be? Celebrities on the whole are no different from an average citizen besides the job they choose to do. I don't feel like anyone should be forced to sacrifice their personal life for their profession based on the whims of delusional strangers who believe a fictional narrative they've created in their own head.

    If your job is to ask someone questions, you think that there'd at least be an effort to make them questions of merit, befitting the artists in front of them, versus some trivial bits that do nothing but satisfy the illusion provided by the fans and the industry itself of obtainability.
     
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    It's honestly not that serious, dude. Lol, you're acting like if they're dating someone isn't an interesting question. What could be more interesting than hearing about the person you love? You talking about how it isn't a respectable question is ridiculous, the interviewer is not Barbra Walters or Walter Kronkite interviewing Bill Gates. They're talking to a newer Kpop group that don't have a long career to talk about, they haven't made that many songs & it's a question that people are curious about.

    If they asked about a dead relative or a sickness I could understand you saying it's inappropriate, but not about if they're dating.
     
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    The thing is, it's not really an appropriate question in the first place, interesting or not. If you're talking to a musician, what relevance does who they're seeing have to an interview? Especially when, in kpop, the answer to that question can legitimately make or break your career. Just because this isn't some hard hitting headline interview doesn't make the question any less pointless, and just because it's something accepted in the west doesn't mean it necessarily should be. It is that serious to any idol who doesn't answer perfectly and then gets dragged by fans because oppa isn't the ideal fantasy anymore.
     
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    I don’t fault them for asking...it should be a normal question to ask someone. But with how companies regulate dating and crazy fans it shouldn’t be something ever asked until the industry and fans change.
     
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