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  1. ItsMilly43

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    Anonymous Post #29
    I told my sister and my one of my best friends about bullying today, but I didn't tell my parents. Today in class I couldn't take anymore. I left the classroom and run straight to the restroom. I try to calm myself down before I had another panic attack, but it was to late I had one in the restroom. I told my mom to come and get me out of school. She came really quick since I wasn't breathing right on the phone. She ask me what was wrong, but I couldn't say anything. I don't want them to get hurt about me getting bully. My dad call me ask what was wrong and what was going on. So did my brother. I love them both dearly, but I know that if I told them about the bullying they will probably be at my school rising hell on everyone with their angry problems. My sister came out the school to talk to me and since we're twins I told her everything. She didn't told mom or dad anything yet. I told her while I go back home not to do anything to anybody as I don't want the situation to get any worse. I'm thinking about talking to a therapist. I feel bad that I couldn't open up to my parents. I don't want them to be hurt by the fact if I talk a therapist instead of them. Tbh I don't want anyone to be hurt. My family, myself, and even the group that bullys me. But going to a therapist I want to talk about a lot other things beside the bullying as well. Like I sometimes question the things I do and thing about. I like to be described as a weird person because I am one, but then I wonder if their something wrong with me. But let forget about this for a moment. Let think about how this week will go by fast and it be thanksgiving! I'll be at home eating my fave food lol! I feel better now. Thanks for listening to my worries and giving me advice it helps! :)
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear you had a panic attack! Rest and drink lots of water and eat healthy foods. When having a panic attack, your body goes through the same things as if you had just run a marathon so make sure to rest and take care of yourself now.

    It's horrible that those people are doing this to you and I'm glad that you'll have thanksgiving in a few days and can just enjoy that time and not think about them.

    I'm glad you talked to someone about what's going on. I'm sure your parents won't be hurt or upset that you don't talk with them, they'll just want you to get help and feel better. It sounds like you have a very supportive family, even if you don't want to tell them everything what's going on.

    I hope you do manage to see a therapist and have someone to talk to about everything. If you are really worried about telling or how to tell your parents, maybe the therapist can help you devise a way so they can know but don't feel like they have to do anything. Whatever happens, your health and wellbeing comes first so please take care of yourself.

    You are a very kind soul and a wonderful person. Being weird is awesome, there's nothing wrong with you.

    No problem, any time. :) I'm glad you're feeling better and this place has managed to help a little bit. This place will always be here for you any time you need it.<3<3

    Happy Thanksgiving!
     
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    i feel so alone rn : (
     
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    I'm sorry. Did you want to talk?
     
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    i just wanted to vent a little, but thank u :loverr3:
     
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    No problem.

    Vent away. Any time you need.
    :loverr3:


    And if you want to vent without a reply please just say 'don't quote' or similar.
    Sometimes we all need to vent without a response.:)
     
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    Thank you so much for your reply, I talked to the rest of the groups and we will have a conversation with her tomorrow. I'm very grateful for your help!
     
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    I'm glad to hear this. No problem, any time. Let me know how it goes.:)
     
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    A girl in my university killed herself last night.
    I am in my final year (6th), she was in 5th.
    I have no idea who she was, have never met her, never seen her before.
    But it hit me a bit too hard of how close I have been to doing the same. How many times I thought about it.
    How we have no idea what a person is going through, how our words affect them, how they understand them and take them.

    What scared me more, was not the story or my own feelings about it. But the reaction of some people. We are studying medicine. Medicine. We are going to be doctors. How fucked up can you, a future doctor, possibly be to say that the university shouldn't offer psychological help, because it is not their problem, and let a sentence leave your mouth: "Normal people don't kill themselves." How can people be this disgusting and have no empathy... I felt shocked that people that will have to help many patients with similar problems actually think like that. The more days pass and the more I loose faith in people. I want to take these people and shake them for their fucking ignorance.

    You can have an average of 9,6/10 while studying medicine and still have no intellectual capabilities.
     
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    so ive never used this thread before and frankly idk why im on allkpop rn but here we go
    spoiler: this is incoherent ranting you can just pass by if you want

    fucking hell
    everything is going wrong in my life right now lmao
    actually it's not just right now, im so fucked in the future too
    ok i just wanna scream at god rn. like if you were going to put me in this shitty psycho family at least give me brain cells like why tf am i so dumb??? like im just as screwed for school? my dad is rlly shitty but like,,,,, i can't do anything to fix this
    like i know i'd never do it but it really would be nice to like die,, idk ab dying but going into a coma for a while would be real nice?? idk i probably sound really dumb right now and im just whining over dumb problems bc im really young, and yeah maybe that's true - it looks like god didnt give me any emotional stability either haha love that for me
    also about dying, like "yOU have a future" ngl I don't?? if i was smarter i could probably support myself and my mom when i become an adult but o god where the fuck is my iq also there's a pretty decent chance im gonna have to partially support my sister financially and it's time to be in dept bitches if my brother joins the club ill just idk i really dunno what i'm going to do haha end me
    and my goddamn mom like i know you're fucked too but like, it's not like i chose to be dumb?? you think i enjoy being like this wtf? i hate my brain so much why can't it just work? it's not like things like this can get better when I practice, literally no matter how hard i try im so stupid
    also while ranting i just realized something else which i won't talk about cause i really don't want to but fuckfuckfuckfuckfuckkkk
    and on the topic of marks, oh yikes lol people say my grade 9 marks don't matter but if they're this bad now, they're going to get wayy worse shittt. like im screwed for english and my science mark is rlly close to dropping bc biology can suck my dick; it's not hard but I can't memorize for the life of me, and actually im screwed for geo too haha love that !! also i thought i was ok at math but this mf program i joined has such smart ass ppl and dear god i hate my brain even more now wowow
    yeah again I probably sound really dumb and if anyone's actually reading this, yes i know i get rlly worked up over stupid things and others probably have it worse so I do kind of feel bad for feeling this shitty if that makes sense sorry i just needed to rant, i am also aware i am swearing a ton bc at the moment i feel like i am a swear word
    damn what am i going to do

    and in conclusion,
    fuck
     
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    lady, i'm really sorry you're going through this :(

    firstly, i want to tell you: deep breaths, focus on feeling good right now at this very second. The future is extremely volatile - you or i can't predict what would happen. There is ZERO point in stressing or worrying about things you don't know whether would happen or not. Thinking about all the things that could go wrong in the future contributes to your current anxiety. I know it's easier said than done, but try and focus on the small things - what are the small things you can do today or tomorrow that would help you feel a bit better? Watch something? Buy some drink or food? Do those things, if your system's overheated from worry you need to cool it down a little if you can.

    secondly, sis, you are not dumb. from what i've interacted with you, you come across as someone with a lot of creativity and eloquence at the very least, and that's not dumb behaviour. Academic results are never a measure of your intelligence - how well you memorise things or write exams doesn't reflect how smart you are, it just reflects how well you know the system.

    that being said, if you need help in english/math/bio/chem (geog...i didn't take, so i won't be of any help) please, please just hmu here or on my new disc. im not claiming to be brilliant but im in uni now and i think i'll be able to explain concepts or teach you how to approach certain questions if you need it (ask @Eziio to vouch for me :mad: ). We can look at it together and maybe even figure out what misconceptions you have that are affecting your scores.

    take care Lady. im here if you need anything <3
     
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    Wow I think few people have ever been this rude to me before.

    I was making calls trying to set up appointments and someone called me a computer, refusing to believe it's a person calling them (I was referred to this person through a previous customer).
    He said some things I won't name and asked if he could check with the person who referred him, so of course I told him it's okay.
    He called me back a bit later.

    After he calls me back, he said him working in the same field as me for 30 years was the reason he talked to me like that then he suddenly used it as an excuse to totally belittle me and treat me like a kid that doesn't know what they're doing.

    I can't even count how many times he said in the most condescending tone possible "Now ____, I'm only gonna tell you one more time so listen alright?"
    He completely expected me to prioritize him & his schedule over mine/my other customers and he said not doing so was "giving up" (???)

    Biggest asshole I've encountered in a while. I'm praying for the day I get to quit this job fr
     
  13. ItsMilly43

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    I'm so sorry to hear that. Please make sure to take care of yourself, especially now, and if you find yourself really struggling please talk with someone. We're here for you as well. <3

    It's very unfortunate how people look at mental health, depression, and suicide. Even people in the medical field will still have their own prejudices and ignorances about it even though they have had training and knowledge about it far more than the average Joe.

    Please don't lose faith in people, there are some absolutely horrible people out there, but there are also some really kind, lovely people out there, like you, who've a lot of empathy and really want to help people. Unfortunately, it's not easy to change people's minds, all you can do is keep believing what you do and keep supporting those in need.

    Become the best doctor you can be. You're going to be a wonderful doctor.:)
     
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    I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling.

    Cry, or punch a punching bag or your pillow, or whatever you need to do to get out the excess energy, then take a few deep breaths and do something fun and relaxing for yourself. Everything will look worse when you’re in a heightened state of emotion so it’s always important to get your emotions out first. Your future is not fucked, you can do anything you want to do.

    You’re not dumb. Please don’t think that way about yourself. If you’re struggling at school, does your school have some kind of tutoring programme or can you get a tutor to help you?

    If you can’t there might be some people on here who can help you. Don’t be afraid to reach out.:)

    You’re not dumb and your problems are not dumb, they are important and it’s okay to feel upset sometimes and want to express that.

    You do have a future and you can do whatever you want to do. If you need help or tutoring, there’s no shame in asking for it. Your future isn’t decided, every door is open to you.

    If you know what you want to do, even in your wildest dreams, maybe write it down and then start doing research on what it takes and start taking steps to get there. You can do it.:)

    Everyone shows their smarts differently, so please don’t compare yourself to other people or other people’s results or marks. Do the best you can do.

    You’re not dumb and this doesn’t sound dumb at all. It’s okay to get worked up, everyone does sometimes. You have a lot going on and a lot of stressors, it’s a lot for anyone to handle. Your problems and your feelings are important, please don’t negate them because someone ‘might have it worse’.

    We’re here for you any time, whatever you want to say or express, and if you want to rant without a reply, just let us know. There’s also an anon form if you don’t want to put your name to it.

    <3<3<3
     
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    Wow, what a complete asshole. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that, you don't deserve it at all. Some people are just rude.

    Hopefully you can get another job and get away from assholes like that.<3
     
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    Maybe you just need to find another therapist. Treating a mental health problem is not like treating a cold. You need to find a therapist you get along with and trust. It may take some time, so don't worry. Also you need to get used to talking about problems first and that's totally ok. It was hard for me at first, too, because I was so stuck to my way of "I can handle that myself" that I tried to convince my therapist about it. But in reality the only person I'm trying to convice is myself. Therapy usually takes about a half to one year to really get to a point that you feel helped or relived. And sometimes in the beginning you feel worse. Because instead of trying to avoid the problems, you have to face them head on. But I'm pretty sure you can do that. If you have the strength to get up everyday and face live with these demons in your head for so long, you also have the strength to take them down. It takes some time though. Don't give up too fast. And don't worry about living with your parents. That's nothing to be ashamed of. I know a lot of people that are your age or even olde that still live with their parents or very close by. Finding a job is a laborious task, because it influences your live so much. And sometimes it's just hard to find anything. Don't worry so much about it. If it makes you feel better, maybe try finding a part-time job somewhere first and just see how much you can tolerate. You can still look for a full-time job from there on.


    If you want to, there is a ointment that you can buy from most pharmacys that's producing warmth. It's actually used for people with muscle pain, but maybe it can help you to avoid hurting yourself. It gives you another way to feel yourself. There's also an ointment especially for causing ain, but without a therapist it's really hard to get. It's important to take small steps away from cutting yourself, because the scars can have a negative effect on you. Like ItsMilly already said, whenever you feel the need to hurt yourself, take a moment to find out what caused it. Because without finding the cause it's hard to change to not needing it. And maybe try to find something to cheer you up as a first try. Maybe your favorite song or your favorite show. Something to distract you from this. I would really ask you to seek for help. I know it's always easier said than done and it's always so scary sounding. But it's nothing to be scared about. And taking care of yourself is also nothing to be ashamed of. Hold your chin up high, because what you face everyday would bring a lot of people very done. But you still have the strength to stand it everyday again. Be proud of your courage and your strength.
     
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    I spent so much time working and trying to stay healthy. My main focus was to have as much of a comfortable life as I can.
    But I've realized, I can't have any happiness if I don't work on myself first. Learning to love and appreciate myself has been so hard. No matter how far I move up in my career, no matter who is in my life. I am never happy, comfortable or at least content.
    Now my therapist says I have to face what happened, open up old wounds and learn to move on.
    I feel like dying/suicidal all over again.
     
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    This is so true. In order to be truly happy, one must love themselves first. It will be hard, and there will be some days where you struggle to, but you will get there.

    Your therapist is right, in order to move on from the past, we must face it, work through it, and accept it. It will be hard and I'm sorry to hear that it's making you feel that way. Please make sure to reach out and speak with people when you're feeling like that.
    You can do this. Work through this with your therapist. You're strong and you got this. <3<3
     
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    Im someone who isnt lets say..."naturally smart"
    So i need CONSTANT revision to be decent at anything,and i understand just how you feel - its so tempting to fall into those thoughts of "why me?" Or "Why are others born smarter than me?" But the reality is that hard work can put you at the exact same level,hell I spent all my time doing maths because i find it insanely hard to grasp but i still passed with an A in my final maths exam - sure there were people who got A* with much less revision but tbh i dont care,i kept trying hard and I did it - you will fail from time to time but its a matter of "ok how can i work on improving this"
    And i can very much vouch for busker! I had a math problem that was frustrating me to the point i wanted to cry because i just couldnt understand why, but literally busker explained it in one sentence and it just clicked! I recommend her very much
     
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    Today is one of those rare days when I can say I'm okay and actually mean it.
     
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