Mental Health Thread ♡

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  1. ItsMilly43

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    Oh that sounds exciting! Remember you can always study when you get home, but breaks and relaxing are important in order to study well and retain more information.

    Oh that's still not that far away! It's almost done.

    Anytime <3
     
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    Honestly, this thread still means a lot to me. I still find myself remembering how I got the chance to have conversations I still contemplate on daily, and make good, genuine friendships because of a thread I came across when I was having a difficult time myself. So many people hurt, and are sad, alone, and don't want to live, and feel they can say it here. I would've laughed my head off if someone said I'd feel this way about some online place created so people with an interest in Kpop could talk in, but I do because these are real people behind the screens. This thread is about the only thing that matters in this place at all, really. I'm hopeful that one day, mental health can be talked about the way we do about physical health. I hope one day there won't be a need for a place like this at all, because there'll be so much help and understanding out there for every single person. People won't have to hide, hurt alone and lose their lives because of what you can't see, but feel. It is probably as silly as wishing for wars to stop or poverty to end, when there is just too much to cover and millions to save, but hope is like that, you're aware of the odds but hope regardless. I wouldn't say I'm better, I have a long way to go myself. I hope I can find the help that's best for me and live a content life filled with good memories. I hope I'll be able to say it was worth it at the end.
     
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    This is really beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

    I believe that if we all do a small thing it will equal to a big change, so places like this can have an impact on other things, all it takes is each of us doing little things.

    So please keep hoping. A tiny light in the dark can have the biggest impact.♡♡♡

    One of the quotes that has had the most profound impact on me, that I carry through as many interractions with people as I can, is "Everyone is fighting invisible battles no one else knows about". Be kind to each other, because we don't know what the other person is going through.

    Thank you again. ♡♡♡
     
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    I really don’t even know why I’m alive

    I ruin all my relationships and friendships. my family sees me as this giant disappointment bc all I do is get sloppy drunk and high all the time.

    I only have one person who stays by me but that’s only bc im convenient and easy for him to use lol
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling like this.

    You deserve better than to be used like that.

    It may not seem like it but you can have whatever you want to in life and if you don't want to be like this you can change. It might just take a little bit of effort.

    I'm sure your family don't see you as a disappointment. They are probably just worried if they can see you're not happy.

    I hope you don't feel like this for long. We're here for you♡
     
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    Thank you ♡ ♡ ♡ That quote is very true. When we interact with people, it's important to keep it in mind because our actions and words can either make or break people. All we can try to do is our individual parts as best as we can and carry hope in our hearts. I think it really has added up here. I remember at the start of it people were either hesitant to talk or easily began venting a lot, it makes you think of how many people walk right past you in real life that share the same thoughts and emotions, but are unable to show it. Makes me grateful to know a place like this exists, and that so many people got to know it.
     
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    I bet if most people in your life knew you question why you're alive at all, they'd regret making you feel that way. It's hard to find the right relationships/friendships with people where you can understand and help each other out, rather than make the other feel like a disappointment for habits that are difficult to change. Staying with you because you're convenient? I hope you find better for yourself, and do better with yourself too. It doesn't seem like it, but I think you will find that.
     
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    don't quote me

    I keep dreaming about sulli ~°

    it not anything dramatic .. I just dream of her smile and that she telling me she fine and that I should not be sad and she ok

    I always followed her instagram and watch her live , seeing how kpop world moved on as if never existed it seem so unreal .. how one existance doesn't effect this world one bit and people keep going on with their lives .. their nothing that can change the past so we have no choice but to keep moving forward while forgetting people who passed .

    it depressing , I feel empty and lost and confused .. I want.sulli.back
     
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    Anonymous Post #22
    The people in my class keeps talking about me and spreading rumors. Everytime their a guy that likes me his friends (both his guy and girl friends) would call me ugly and body shame me for being skinny and not have a butt or a chest. I'm honestly think I'm pretty irl, but I can't stand the atmosphere in that class. I don't why, but when i came home on Friday I just went into tears in my room. I try to not pay attention to them, but i can't. I really want to say something to them. I don't want to sit in my seat and let them talk about me. I also don't want to shed tears for something like this. I want to stand up for myself. I don't want to be weak minded anymore. I just need the confidence and the right words to do so.
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. Bullies are horrible people.

    Words hurt, so even if you do your best to ignore them or not pay attention to them, hearing people talking badly about you will still affect you.

    Please don't think you're weak-minded for not responding to them or standing up to them, it takes a strong person not to stoop to their level. As horrible as this is to hear, in situations like this, there is no response that will make them stop.

    They bully you because you have something that they want or that makes them insecure (even if you don't think you do), so their response is to try to tear you down and make you feel bad in an effort to make themselves feel good. And as cliché and typical-adult-answer as this is the best response to bullies is ignoring them.

    Can you talk to your teacher to switch seats so you don't have to hear them talking? Unfortunately we can't stop people talking about us, but we don't have to listen to it.

    Do you have anyone to talk to about it? A friend or parent or counsellor? Not to talk to in the telling-on-them sense, if you don't want to do that, but just to have someone there to listen to you and remind you how great you are and how not-great those people are.

    I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. It's a hard thing to deal with and solve.

    I wish I could offer better advice or magic words to make them stop because you don't deserve to be treated like that.
    We're here for you whenever you need <3<3<3
     
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    when will the dog days be over?
    not even people that appear the strongest get a happy ending what is left for the weak like us?
    I always tell myself that 'in the mean time' 'give that extra mile' 'it rains before the rainbow' and stuff like that but literally it's been 'bad times' for years. The people I look up to because they are strong and and beautiful in every sense of the word end up being broken too, I'm heartbroken I don't want to take part on anything anymore. I can't sleep I can't even escape like that, my body is becoming sick and so is my mind, I'm just declining at a fast rate and everyone thinks I'm off.
    Give her back, give them all back, those who didn't deserve a bad ending, and leave the actual bad ones to rot.
    I'm so tired, I'm so unwilling to do anything, to live for anything.
    I don't love me and I don't love life anymore either.
     
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    I keep getting these sudden waves of sadness. I would be sitting around doing nothing important but then get hit with a huge amount of sadness and my heart start hurting and I start crying for no reason. It's been this way for over two years and I don't know why that happens to me. I don't know what's wrong with me.
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling like this.

    Grief hits us in many different ways. Allow yourself to grieve, it's okay.

    Do you have anyone close to you that you can talk with, or a school counsellor or such?

    I know it seems like recently has been the worst, but it can and will get better even though it doesn't seem like it now.

    It's okay to be upset, and to grieve, and it's important in times like this to talk to someone, but please don't lose love and hope. They are important. Loving yourself is important.

    I wish I could help more. I'm here if you need someone.♡
     
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    I can relate to this. I get that feeling too. Mine is linked to my anxiety which does the same thing.
    There's nothing wrong with you tbh. Sometimes we just get sad or upset for no reason.
    Do you have someone you can talk to in those moments?
    I'm sorry to hear this. You're strong, sometimes crying is the best thing.♡
     
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    But is that normal? Especially when it's frequent.
    Not in irl but I post here sometimes.
     
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    it depends how frequent, but yeah, getting sad randomly is normal. If you are worried about it though, please try to go see your GP or family doctor, who will be able to confirm your symptoms better than I can.

    Do you think it might be helpful for you to try and see a counsellor or therapist irl? You're absolutely welcome to post in here as much as you like, please don't think I'm trying to get rid of you because I'm not. I just know sometimes talking to a professional helps tremendously.

    ♡♡ I'm here for you.
     
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    I can't. But thank you for your help.
     
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    Anonymous Post #23
    To continue the Anonymous Post #22 about bullying. My teacher changes the seat every month, so next week I will have a new seat in that class. The people who talk about me sit in the back, while I sit in the front. I'm afraid that she might change my seat to be in group with them. I want to tell her that I can't sit with certain people, but she a righteous teacher so I'm afraid she will report everyone involve for bullying. We are all seniors and I don't want the football players involve to be kick off the team. The thing that gets me is every person who sits in the back has at least one class with me. So in every class their someone talking about me or just watching me. They even gave me the nickname "small tits" and "only good face" when they whisper/talk about me. Just a few weeks ago when our class was taking a test the people in the back kept whispering "small tits". The whole class just stare at me. I couldn't even finish my test. The teacher kept going in and out the class to talk with another teacher while looking at us through the door window. But only in 2 classes I feel trap and can't breathe in. Those two classes I can't stand at all because the whole class knows what happening and they join in except for a few. Now I went middle and elementary school with some of these people and I'm cool with them, but I admit I shock that they talk behind my back as well. I do have two best friends that I can talk to and for my family they love me as well, but I will talk to my friends about it. For the past two months I ignore all of them, but I can't take this no more. I'm a quiet person and I don't do anything bad to anyone. i don't understand why they have to say something about me. And for the guy who supposedly "likes" me is just trash as the rest of them. I don't like the dude, but if you like someone you don't go trash talking or saying some nasty shit about them.
     
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    Oh, fair enough. It’s a very difficult position to be in, to try to say something to a teacher as vaguely as possible so you don’t have to sit with them, but also so the teacher doesn’t take action that you don’t want against them. Do you think if you told the teacher that you have history with them or they make you uncomfortable without elaborating, she might take steps to make sure you don't get grouped with them? Or maybe by telling her you learn better at the front of the class that she might not group you at the back of the class?

    That’s so horrible, I’m so sorry to hear those people are treating you this way, they sound like absolute trashbags.

    Does you school have a counsellor you can talk to? Sometimes a counsellor can take steps to help you without taking action against the bullies if you don’t want that. Or is there an option to switch to another class so you don’t have to be with them?

    I know it’s shitty advice but unfortunately sometimes that’s all we can do is ignore bullies. Trying to stand up to them or treating them as horribly as they’re treating you doesn’t work. It’s horrible that they’re doing this and I agree, if you like someone, you don’t treat them this way.

    I’m glad you have really supportive family and friends around you. They can help you forget about those idiots and help you keep being the wonderful person that you are.

    I hate bullies. I wish I had a way to get rid of them, I’m sorry I can’t help you with that.
     
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    Okay, no problem. I'm here any time you need. <3<3
     
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