Mental Health Thread ♡

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  1. Essencellie

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    I'm not ugly, I'm just pre-debut
    my boyfriend I've had for a while ended up cheating on me with multiple girls
    even pursuing to date one, and she even was FRIENDS with me,
    he mentally/verbally abused me, and now that we aren't together
    he is CONTINUING to do things without consent even when I'm asking so nicely.
    he said all the time "I'm not a cheater" "I'd never cheat" "Trust me"
    and I finally broke those walls down and became vulnerable again,
    just to have him break my heart like my past relationships.
    I never have malicious intent and I'm always saying things like,

    "This is my fault & I'll take accountability, my apologies."
    but people always find a way to take advantage of my apologetic complex,
    and then play the victim so easily. I've been cheated on in almost all my relationships,
    or told I wasn't enough, or both. At this point people are telling me,

    "you're just choosing the wrong people" wait... So you get mad at me for blaming myself...
    but then you are basically saying its my fault for dating the wrong/pursuing the wrong people?
    No one should ever tell someone who got cheated on that THEY chose the wrong person,
    its almost validating it by being like, well now lets turn it onto you, and as a pansexual,

    I have dated all kinds of people, what gets me to like them is their personality,
    and all of them are VERY different, some are introverted and emotional,
    some are extraverted but blablabla, but at the end of the day,
    very different people, so I won't have the "you have a type" bs.

    well thats it.
    this is my rant.
    we just ended this week
    :)
     
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  2. kodoku

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    Good riddance girlie, you don't need that. You can do so much better, you deserve so much better ♥️
     
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    My dear Blacky is gone and I really want to be dead now.
     
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    I'm not ugly, I'm just pre-debut
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    its just hard..
     
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    I'm so sorry hun

    I know cutie, I know... You will be ok, I promise <3
     
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    My life has been permeated by a sense of longing.
    I want to enjoy things but I'm very disciplined
     
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    I messed up my sleep pattern so I got irritated and anxious. Everyone, sleep well if you can, and sleep on time, because being sleep-deprived can result in an unbalanced mental state.
     
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    Longing is such a horrible feeling. I'm sorry to hear you are feeling that way.
    Try to allow yourself to enjoy things being disciplined is good, but enjoying things is important as well.


    This is very true. Sleep is extremely important for your physical and mental wellbeing.
    I hope you can get your sleep pattern back to normal soon.
     
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    begginforthread stand inside your love

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    Preaching to the choir on this one :p
     
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    I'm trying to improve and trying to be strong after losing my dear Blacky, it has been tough but today I'm actually trying to stand up again.

    I hope you all manage to overcome your difficulties whatever they're about. I've been in a dark spot since July but, losing my lovely dog made me realize many things.

    Anyways, I wish you all the best, I hope you all manage to beat the issues weakening your mood; stay strong and never give up.

    We may momentarily crumble down, but remember there's always a reason to fight back.

    <3
    We all deserve to be happy, so let's try our best to be so.
     
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    I hope the longing pushes you in the right direction to achieve what you wish for <3

    Ah my insomnia.. Let's all try to sleep in the best way we can :)

    Thanks hun, stay strong and know I'm proud of you ~~
     
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    Why did you goo why did I fight for you but you didnt fight for me.

    It's just hard I hate how I get emotionally involved with people I just cant help it I really really care and I love easily. And I'm just hurt. But nobody cares. Its whatever tho I just cant wait for it to be over you just cant trust anyone with your heart dont give it away really just dont.

    And I cant even feel hatred to help forget cause I cant hate someone I love even if I try. I feel hated and forgotten honestly but how come I can't feel this way. I dont think right cause I get too attached but it's okay it's a pain that I'll learn from and use as motivation, but at the end of the day I just know I will never stop caring about you. I love you so much. But it will all be better one day.. one sweet summer day, hopefully for both of us.
     
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    I'm sorry it's like this and that you're feeling this way. I pray you feel better soon, stay strong <3
     
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    every time I go to my mom, it results in her with an attitude that tells me I don't pay bills, I don't have a mortgage, why am I so anxious, etc

    I feel like I have no one to talk to, that I'm a failure, I'll never get a full time job with benefits, and I should just die

    I have nothing to give and I feel like such complete shit. I'm so exhausted and I have like no appetite.

    Sigh.
     
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    I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. It's hard when you're struggling and not finding support from the people you really need it from.

    I'm always here for you if you need me, either here or in DMs. You're not a failure and you will find a job. Please don't die. You've got so much to live for, even if it doesn't seem like it right now.

    You've go so much to give and are an awesome person. I hope one day soon you see how wonderful you are.:loverr3:
     
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    everyone has their own limits
    you did try to fight the good fight
    If you didn't, I imagine you would be left with an endless series of "what if"
    the other person who didn't fight
    that will never be a reflection of you
    Always remember that

    it's a lonely feeling, isn't it?
    unfortunately, no single soul will ever match to what you're feeling. we can learn, we can understand, but this is your heart, your hurt, your pain to bear.
    be most kind and gentle to your heart at these times
    let it breathe, talk with it (I'm for reals), and focus on your own basic needs at this time

    you can truly never forget a person you put any time and effort into. and why you can't forget is because you're full of those memories and nostalgia of the good times. it's hard to go back to the daily routine without that person. one day there will be a person who is more suited to match with you. that day may not be soon enough or sooner than we think.

    but baby steps. focus on sleeping, eating, and breathing. you'll get there until you're comfortable with your new norm. you had a good run, but now let's change pace.
     
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    Emileh In Love with Kim Woobin

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    I feel like it's less a want to die, but more a desire as if to punish myself. For not doing better, for not trying harder, for making wrong choices, etc. I sometimes look at like the laundry detergent and think I deserve to swallow it.

    I found a better paying job close to me that I applied for. They say they are offering full time. So, I'll look into it tomorrow. It's a gas station that is open during the day only and it offers discount for gas (they have what I need for my car). If my car breaks down, it's literally 4 miles away on a bike trail.
     
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    I'm sorry to hear that.:( You don't deserve punishment. Try to remember that you're making the choices for you that are right in the moment, even if afterwards they might not feel that way.
    It can be hard. Look at the amazing advice you gave Ripia. It applies to you too. Be kind and gentle to your heart.

    That sounds amazing. It's full time, there's discounts, it's close. I really hope it all works for you. Let me know how it goes.:loverr3:
     
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    Girlie hey there ~~ I'm sorry your mom is being a bit insensitive like this, but please remember your feelings are valid regardless of what others say... I am in a similar place too, you're not alone... It truly is so scary, but we have to believe because it's the only way, we have to try even if we are doubtful. You can do it girl and you can write to me any time too <3
     
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    Wrapped up in my blanket is where I like to be. Feeling its little warmth against my pounding head, and soon to be tears coming from my tired eyes. I've been feeling colder lately; nothing to drastic though. But I didn't like it when the sun beat against my face either.

    I wonder what people think of me when they hear my name, see my face or even body. I'd probably just fall out of that conversation and feel really depressed even if it was something positive or a compliment. I can't handle some things. I really can't. No longer can I tell if I'm hungry or not. Often I question if the little happiness I get here and there will last longer than it had previously. People intentions also bother me too. When will I feel loved.

    Everyday feels the same. I wake up and later develop an unwavering sadness that did not previously exist in the morning. Wrapped in my blankets, alone in my room is where I want to be. Even if only one earbud works and I'm balling my eyes out, it will all just reset itself right? It'll become a vague memory of which I live on repeatedly.

    I don't want to live my life like this, but I can't remember the last I was content.
     
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