Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Eziio, Feb 14, 2017.
Not @ me lying through my teeth when my mom asked me who I was gonna marry in the future
there are no bi/pan girls at my school and the only ones that are are my best friends
i can picture myself dating girls and guys, and i have an ideal type for both
*screams in closeted* being in the closet is like being in purgatory i fucking hate it, but like i can't come out since it's not safe :/
asasafghyjukujyhgfsd what am i
hm, that makes it harder. like I said though, there's no rush to figure it out. Just keep thinking about it- having an ideal type for both is a great start! and if you can picture yourself dating girls AND guys that's a good sign. really, just try and check up on yourself often while you try and figure out what's right for you.
"yea my celeb crush is gal- uhh cHRIS EVANS"
shjhsjshj ur too nice this is so helpful
p. sure I'm ftm
Why can I relate . One minute I can totally see myself dating a girl then kinda fantasize about it then the next minute it’s boys. It’s kinda confusing for one part of the day I’ll be attracted to both girls and guys then for the rest of the day I’ll be only attracted to boys
It’s like phases
see this is why we gotta stick together
this is just a random thing u can ignore. I’m a cis female.
So I don’t really talk about my sexuality a lot and I don’t really like to put a label on it. Is that okay to do? Like if I end up with a woman I wouldn’t mind or a man or any person really. I just don’t really think about it a lot. I’m kinda worried about people in my family the most I guess. My friends most of them are bisexual, so it wouldn’t really matter. I know my family wouldn’t care too much but I’m just nervous about saying anything. Idk this was just a weird rant sorry.
HELLO GAYS I AM BACKKKK
so i’m questioning again WOOHOO but like i’ve also got a better understanding so yayyy
for me (idk if this is accurate for anyone else or anything so like ignore this but still) there’s 4 levels of attraction: aesthetic, romantic, long term, and sexual
Spoiler: jamie’s long ass system for explaining her weird feelings
aesthetic: when i find something physical/out of someone’s control attractive; mostly looks but also things like voice. not super important tbh but for example, i don’t want a long term relationship with a guy but i might be aesthetically attracted to him; like omg he’s hot but that’s about it for me, not a reason to want to have a relationship
romantic: i am somewhat attracted to someone and might date them for a little while, but not really thinking about a long term thing. like yeah, i’d be willing to date u and get close w u for a little while but idk how long it’d last
long term: i think ur great and we get along so well that it makes me wanna be with u for a long time in the future
sexual: i’ve developed a trusting, close emotional bond with u and would be comfortable with having sex, find u sexually attractive
anyway i am aesthetically attracted to femininity, mostly romantically attracted to women, only really open to long term relationships with women, and only sexually attracted to women (although only one person in particular right now, as i trust her very much having been close with her for years and know that she would be open to the same with me)
woooohoooo i’m pretty lesbian rn
yea, its completely fine to not put a label on your sexuality! a lot of ppl do that
LMAOO interesting ive read abt aesthetic attraction before but never rly understood it, cool!
i don’t think that’s a very good explanation of it tbh i’m pretty sure that’s what I just made up
Yoooo did yall see elliot page has come out as trans! Pronouns he/they, I hope everyone here and otherwise who belongs under the trans umbrella cand find strength from him
yep i saw that! idk who he is but thats great that he was confident enough to come out
he's currently playing Vanya in the Umbrella Academy! (he's done lots of other great roles too though!)
cool! ive heard abt that show, been wanting to check it out
I swear if I see anymore neopronouns discourse I'm deleting TikTok oh my god. Cis people are always in our business. I don't even use neopronouns, but they're so annoying with it.
They're all like "I'm not using kitten/kittenself, that's a nickname." SHUT UP, IF YOU REALLY WEREN'T GONNA USE THEIR PRONOUNS, YOU DON'T HAVE TO FUCKING TALK TO THEM, IT'S JUST THAT SIMPLE. Or they bring up the stupid "blm/blmself" pronouns, like that was quite obviously trolling. Or they're putting nor/mal or...well the n word on their bio as their "pronouns" like just say you're transphobic and go
I mean in general gender is a very interesting thing to talk about, but coming off close minded and just outright transphobic. yikes.
"I'll proudly say this very marginalized group are subhumans" energy isn't a good look.
im not sure if im non-binary or genderfluid so i am going by neopronouns for now,,, im so confused idk