Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Eziio, Feb 14, 2017.
nvm i replaced OP seems the image crashed after the hack ><
i never commented in here but it's so nice to see how you welcome everyone! :>
Oh & i'm bi
eyyy great to see you here
@Eziio could you help to "define" ̶m̶y̶s̶e̶l̶f̶ this friend of mine? It's just a rhetorical question, you don't need to do it. lol
So, here I am, a cisgender girl, who is unable to make deep emotional connection with someone, but makes only (consensual) sexual "connections" instead. I'm not stone hearted, but I can't love right now. I don't think I know what real love is. I "loved" before, but looking back, these ones weren't the love I want to experience. All of them were selfish or obsession based or full of jealousy.
Sexually, I'm straight until this, but sometimes I think I want to... experiment. I find girls pretty or cute, but of course, that itself doesn't make me bi.
I'm just a hoe, literally. lol
sure ill help
ok so question is
does your "friend" want to make romantical connections? do they feel like they want a romantical relationship or would a really close friend be just as good?
Ehhh, Ezii, you surely know how to get to the point immediately. My poor "friend" feels like she doesn't need a romantical relationship right now, she is not the type who craves for romantic things or deep feelings, but also feels like it's not impossible to fall in love and have real feelings, if she finds... that person who is able to bring out the 'romantic side' of her. Sounds a little bit complex. I don't even understand my friend sometimes.
LOL that face
I can think of 2 romantic orientations if they think it's more than just finding someone compatible
Spoiler: first one
do these match?
Yes, they match. Especially the description of demiromantic, I think it fits me better.
̶D̶e̶m̶i̶s̶e̶x̶u̶a̶l̶ ̶d̶o̶esn̶'̶t̶ ̶m̶a̶t̶c̶h̶ ̶m̶e̶,̶ ̶o̶b̶v̶i̶o̶u̶s̶l̶y̶.̶
I wouldn't say I "desire realtionships which are not quite platonic and not quite romantic." Like, yes, right now I don't want a romantic relationship and I don't think I'm that romantic type of person, but maybe, I just never met the person who shows me what "romantic" means. Or maybe, my romantic side deeply sleeps and waits for me to wake it up. And I don't avoid romantic relationships purposefully.
I don't want to state that I never want a romantic relationship or never want to experience romantic attraction. Because right now, I don't want it, but who knows?
Hope you understand what I try to say. RIP my friend, I used singular.
Greyromantic is whether you fit into one of those you dont have to fit all of them to be greyromantic!
Oh, okay. Thanks for your help.
sooo, i always identified as bi but always made jokes im gay cuz im more into girls, but like i dont get any romantic feelings for a guy, just lust, like id sleep with them but i dont wanna get with them ya know, so i thought maybe im bisexual homoromantic? or maybe i just hadnt found the right guy and i could be homoflexible? bitch is more confusing than maths
bisexual homoromantic sounds like the most possible case~
homoflexible is more about sexual attraction in my opinion
like you're rarely every attracted to a guy but once in a blue moon you find a guy sexually attractive
you are free to identify as whatever you wish to~
I am kinda scared to post here. It took me two hours (and making uncountable changes to what I wrote initially) to decide to post this
Ok I am not kinda scared I am really scared. This is the first time I am putting this to writing. I have been reading this thread since last weekend(not sure when I started reading it). I can really relate to this comment
Except I didn’t only have to urge to kiss her I kissed her. This is one thing I tried to convince myself never happened(for 4 years). Sometimes I dream about it. It is like smth you see in your dream and you are no longer sure if it really happened or it is just a Dream. I find guys attractive/handsome too but not as much as girls. I find girls really attractive but I try not to think too much/ talk about it. I try to think of finding girls attractive as an admiration(??). I have only one had one relationship with a guy but I didn’t find it enjoyable. At one point I told myself love/genuine feelings doesn’t exist. It is just a heat in the moment(can’t find the right word now) thing. I keep telling myself not to think too much of anything. Just focus on school don’t get a good job get a great one and everything will be fine. Not sure if what I wrote makes sense because it is almost midnight here. I will probably try to get drunk this weekend and convince myself what I wrote above never happened. I might delete it later depending on how I feel. I tried to be vague because I don’t have the courage to post something more explanatory
I think its always good to try put your actual thoughts out of the way and instead remind yourself that its NOT something shameful,it does not make you some sort of sinful person. If one of your female friends told you they kissed a girl would you react the same? If not then why do you suppress your own feelings?
No. I don’t think I would react the same way. I honestly don’t know why it is hard to accept it. I am just confused about everything
Im thinking internalised homophobia ><
Might be worthwhile to read ^^'
Yes I know about this, and it sounds like a pretty tragic state to be in. Can't imagine being at war with yourself like that. Thankfully I've been all about the pussy since day 1 and never had a struggle with it.