What do you look for in a good/close friend? Something that's important to me these days is when the other person treats me as an equal, which is especially evident when they take the initiative to ask me to spend time with them. I feel that when a person makes the effort to ask me to hang out, it indicates that they genuinely see value in me and my company. Spoiler I'm wondering because I'm currently feeling unhappy with some of my friends who aren't really showing me that they care about our relationship. It's as if my efforts are one-sided and that my friendship is just another loose branch they could snap off anytime they wanted. I stick with them regardless because they are encouraging to me when I reach out to them for support. It's just the genuine effort is never really there... I also get it that people have different standards from me. I don't expect two people in a relationship to ever put in equal effort. "Treating someone equally" is different. To me, an equal friendship is when two people are doing their best to nurture a relationship, even if one person seems to be doing more work than the other. They don't have to do as much as me...but initiation or an action showing signs of interest are things I would greatly appreciate.